Some Things....

....I really like about being married, three months in.

Now that we are married, David makes me tea every single morning and every single evening and sometimes he peels my oranges for me. He used to do it sometimes but now he does it all the time.

Now that we are married, I can tell David I really hate his new haircut and he doesn't mind that much because I'm not going anywhere.

Now that we are married, when my dog nearly died and David went with me and my arms full of westie and wool tartan blanket and my red, puffy, sobby face to the vet and didn't say anything about it when I cried really loud and ugly in front of all the vet people.

Now that we are married, we have our money, and our dogs and our cat and our flat and our car and our computer and our bed and our dinner and our lives. Which is much easier than having to mind your own life and car and flat and dog and computer and bed and dinner and money. Much much easier.

P.S. The dog has been in the doggie hospital for two days and while for normal people this might not cause heaps of sobbing and ghashing of teeth and sleepless nights, for me this is it. So send Susie happy thoughts.

Did Anyone Else Hear This?

I heard this article on NPR this morning while making about Not Getting Married. Becoming domestic partners rather than getting married. One guy said "marriage is the big commitment, let's not ruin anything" which reminds me of Meg's post yesterday. For me I think the best thing about having made the decision to get married is that we've decided to be together forever. So whether or not we ruin anything, we're in it. Which is kind of the point. Hmmm.

Prenup of a different colour

Today is our prenuptial investigation by our parish priest. He's basically going to ask David if he's being forced and ask me if we intend to have children and make sure we both know what we're getting in for. It's kind of exciting and lovely and final. Calling it a 'prenuptial investigation' makes it a little scary but I'm looking forward.

In prettier news: I kind of want to have a Quaker Wedding Certificate. I think it's lovely to have everyone who's there sign our 'wedding certificate' rather than a book which will probably never get seen. But we are having a Catholic wedding. And people might think it's silly and contrived. And even though I read APW a lot I am still worried about people thinking I'm silly and contrived. So maybe we'll leave that out. It is lovely though. If I were to have one, this might be the one I want.

When you get married

You have to have a lot of major life conversations. Like 'where are we going to live' not as in 'where are we going to live next year or two years from now' but like 'where do we want our children to grow up' and 'how important is it for you to live close to your parents' and 'when my siblings all live all across the country I want to see them, how do we make that happen?' Sometimes it becomes a lot. Sometimes we do not want to do the same things.